As God’s beloved children through faith in His wonderful Son Jesus Christ we are called to live to a very high standard.
Therefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and rest your hope fully upon the grace that is to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ; as obedient children, not conforming yourselves to the former lusts, as in your ignorance; but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, because it is written, “Be holy, for I am holy.” And if you call on the Father, who without partiality judges according to each one’s work, conduct yourselves throughout the time of your stay here in fear; knowing that you were not redeemed with corruptible things, like silver or gold, from your aimless conduct received by tradition from your fathers, but with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot. 1 Peter 1:13-19
God commands us to be holy because He is holy. We are called by God to be holy in all that we think, say and do. He will judge our work with impartiality and so we must walk during our stay here in fear and reverence.
Notice how Paul likens the vile things that we may say or write with godless living in Ephesians chapter 5.
But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Ephesians 5:3-5
Now linking wicked speech with evil living underscores the origins of such godless behavior, the unredeemed flesh. Those who practice evil speaking are exposing the cesspool that festers in their hearts. Whoever practices such filthy talk should seriously consider whether or not they have been redeemed. Believing in Christ Jesus and the mercy that He offers us through His redeeming work coupled with genuine repentance and rejection of ungodly behavior are the jackhammers that blast to smithereens the corrupted flesh. In the epistles we are encouraged to put off the works of the flesh and put on the work of the Spirit.
And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma. Ephesians 4:30-5:2
Therefore, laying aside all malice, all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and all evil speaking, as newborn babes, desire the pure milk of the word, that you may grow thereby, if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is gracious. 1 Peter 2:1-3
If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is our life appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory. Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth; fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. Because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience, in which you yourselves once walked when you lived in them. But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds, and have put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who created him, where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcised nor uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave nor free, but Christ is all and in all. Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. Colossians 3:1-16
But you have not so learned Christ, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness. Ephesians 4:20-24
I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh…But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Ephesians 5:16 & 22-25
Through the Word of God we are given powerful instructions for living a holy life, well-pleasing to God, glorifying Him as we rely on Christ Jesus and the indwelling Holy Spirit. We are commanded to refrain from the works of the flesh and instead bear the fruits of the Holy Spirit. By trusting what Jesus Christ has done for us we must put off the old man and put on the new man created in the image of God the Father and Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior. We must turn from malice and evil speaking, instead practice forgiveness, love, tenderheartedness, and kindness toward one another. As we walk in love and humility toward one another, we display the love of Christ toward one another, which is well pleasing to God.
Based upon recent posts that I have read, there is a current trend in the church for men to disrespect women in arrogant pride, and for women to harass and accuse men in fearful rebellion. There is no place within the body of Christ for attacking one another, being divided by gender. Men must make every effort to display deference toward women and women should cultivate a gentle and quiet spirit trusting the Lord to take care of them; respecting their husbands and calling them lord, being submissive to them in all things, remembering the Lord Jesus Christ will hold the husband accountable and protect and nurture the wife.
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward-arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:1-7
The husband is the head of the wife, and called to protect her from any and all forms of abuse, even if it originates with church leadership. The wife must entrust herself to the Lord and commit her way to Him, knowing that He is the head of the husband. Written or spoken words expressing disdain for one another is completely contrary to Christ and His glory and must be thoroughly rejected. Those who persist in ungodly behavior are besmearing the precious name of Christ proving they are of the flesh.
The husband and wife must be faithful to one another in thought, word and deed. Living a chaste life is completely contrary to today’s world besotted with sex. While the marriage bed is pure and undefiled, broadcasting sexual behavior in marriage has nothing to do with godly living. Writing about sexual behavior even from a married perspective doesn’t enhance chastity, but promotes immorality. As the beloved bride of Christ, pure and undefiled, we must walk circumspectly, avoiding even the appearance of evil, broadcasting His love and His holiness to all those around us in godly gratitude and love.
Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart Be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my strength and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14 My mouth shall speak wisdom, And the meditation of my heart shall give understanding. Psalm 49:3